Entering a new school year can be overwhelming, which is why we created a guide for students to prepare for a new school year.
What is the role of a parent in their children's education?
Many specialists would argue that parents' involvement in their child's schoolwork is crucial for their education because it shows them that they have a support system.
However, many parents tend to take their role quite literally —because they want to see them succeed— and don't allow the student to develop important skills and they also interrupt their learning process.
Doing their homework for them can guarantee a good grade but it will only harm them in the long run.
Letting them solve their problems and be right next to them while they do it can help them build confidence in themselves and with the years they will be successful and self-confident students.
Helping your kids prepare for the new school year
As a parent, there are plenty of things you have to take care of before your child goes back to the classroom.
For instance, you need to help your children get their materials or supply list for all of their classes, especially if your kids are little. You can go with them to the book store and help them get all their books and to a stationery store so they can get notebooks, binders, papers, pens, pencils, coloring pencils, and much more.
Your kids must come with you to run these types of errands because that way they can learn that preparing for school and getting their materials is their responsibility too. And in many cases, they are also going to want to pick their notebooks, backpack, and other personalized items.
However, your level of responsibility with this task should decrease as your children start to get older.
If your kids are teenagers now, they're in high school, and they're driving, they should be able to go get their supplies by themselves. If you, as a parent, want to go with them, you can, but they must be responsible for getting everything they need.
Another way you can support your kids preparing for the new school year is by checking with them their classes syllabus and answering any questions they might have. This way you are teaching them to be prepared and you're also letting them know you are there to guide and support them.
You should also be in contact with the school and figure out transportation and details for a lunch plan. If you drive your child to school, then you do not have to worry about transportation. However, if they take the bus, you need to sort that out. If your children go to different schools, you need to solve this for everyone and with every school.
When it comes to a lunch plan, you can also talk to the schools and see what food they will offer that year, because we imagine you worry about your child's health and they need to be well-fed.
Finally, teachers usually send summer readings or some other sort of homework during the summer. Parents usually let their kids take care of the work themselves, but it doesn't hurt if you check in on their work and progress once in a while.
We know that summer vacation is all about having fun, enjoying the weather, or spending time with family, but that doesn't mean that kids get to forget their responsibilities and education. They should try to read at least once a day or a couple of times per week.
Summer readings are really easy to forget, that's why it is better if you set some sort of plan or deadline system to check on your kid's progress. This can seem annoying to them but at the end of the day, you'd be helping them move forward and avoid the stress and anxiety of not being done by the end of the summer.
You should also pay attention to exactly what the teacher is asking from their students on the given assignment and make sure your child is following instructions correctly.
What to do when kids don't want to cooperate?
Having kids who do not cooperate with you can be challenging, but it is also not something impossible to change.
Children who don't cooperate usually learn the behavior at home or in school and it is your job to make sure they unlearn any harmful habits or behaviors.
First, you need to learn to spot these harmful behaviors. For instance, if they refuse to participate in house chores, if they don't see you as an authority, if they challenge you constantly, if they talk back, if they refuse to have a daily routine, and so on.
Some parents tend to be overindulging with their children, and even though they do it because they love them, they are harming them.
If you feel like your child needs to adjust some behaviors here is a list of tips you can start doing to help them change those behaviors:
- Invite them to do chores with you - this will teach your child about cooperation and teamwork. While you're doing the chore you should point out something positive about cooperation, like how fast you're doing it.
- Take time to solve problems - effective communication can go a long way and reasoning with your child can be better than getting angry and grounding them.
- Reward them when appropriate - whenever they show you they are making an effort or when they do something positive but unexpected, it's ok to reward them somehow. These rewards should stay within your house rules, for instance, if you have a rule of no TV after 8 pm, then you can't reward them with TV at 9 pm.
- Change commands for suggestions - sometimes a child won't respond positively to command, however, they do respond well when they are given a suggestion and the illusion of having a choice.
- Give them choices - you can give them options or different activities to choose from. For example, if they clean their room in the morning they can do something fun in the afternoon, or if they clean their room in the afternoon they won't be doing anything fun throughout the day.
Remember that the best thing to do if they're ever misbehaving in public or in a social situation is keeping your anger to yourself and try to reason with them once you're home. If you continue to have issues, you should consider talking to a kid's specialist!
Learn about the benefits of being prepared before school starts.
Managing the stress!
Keep in mind that the learning process of having a child cooperate can be long and stressful. We are not saying this to cause you any anxiety, all we want is for you to be ready for the process.
Many psychologists recommend parents not react badly when their child is acting up. As stressful as that situation can be, they say reacting can only make things worse. Instead, it is better to let everyone cool down and communicate our feelings and concerns once everyone is calm.
Learning to manage stress, especially if you're stressed with your child, can be challenging, and more so when we are told not to lash out at them.
However, it is a very useful process and at the end of the day you will see the change in your and your child's behavior once you manage to control your stress, and by extension, your kid's stress too.
Sometimes parents will lash out at their children and make things much worse for everyone.
That is why it is better to do some research and read some tips on how to manage anxiety and stress with the family, how to set boundaries and rules, ways to improve their education, how to make sure your children hear how you feel, at home and classroom activities that are going to help rebellious children, and much more.
You can have a meeting with their teacher and during that time ask them how your child is doing in school and what behaviors they should work on at home.
Keep in mind that these "behaviors" include kids not wanting to do homework, not taking care of their health, avoiding a routine, being anti-social, not having the energy or being ready in the morning, or having weird conduct in public, and much more.
There are plenty of ways you can help them out, but, as we mentioned, you will have to do some research and read extensively about the topic to find tips that might help.
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